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Orgasm, control of sex and masturbation in woman-led relationships

-- By Anonymous

Everyone over 10 years old likely knows about mastrubation (wife-led marriage, woman-led)

     To this day, male masturbation is seen as less than sexy and almost always characterized as sleazy while female masturbation is at least sexy if not sexually hypnotic and tempting. Everyone know about masturbation by age 10 but it is almost never discussed openly in polite society and men remain embarrassed about women knowing they do it and more so about women seeing/catching them doing it. Some men have fantasy about the 'humiliation' of forced or obedient masturbation as their only method of release. The fantasy some dream deeply is being denied orgasm for long terms of time while only being milked through prostate massage by a skilled mistress .As far as I know, everyone does masturbate both male and female (if you don't you are a very small percentage of the population.) and fantasies about it are common.

Male masturbation is counter productive to good relationships (wife-led marriage, woman-led)

     Masturbation tends to make men lazier about their care of women. If you think about "the chase" to get into a relationship, there is a lot of sexual tension, desire and interest from both men and women; but it is common knowledge that after men climax their interest level declines dramatically while a woman's often increases. The scientific reason behind that has to do with hormone levels, which hormones are released, and the duration of hormone release. The release of endorphins causes "less pain" and a euphoric feeling of wellness in women. Although men and women share similar chemical experiences, they react differently to it. Women tend to turn towards their partner while men tend to turn away. One theory is the length of time an orgasm takes to achieve and lasts for most women is longer than that of men who tend to have climax quicker and for a shorter duration. The point is men who masturbate are less likely to want sex and far less likely to care for a woman's needs, making them less desirable partners. Conversely women who climax more often and for longer durations are more likely to feel closer to their mates.

"The period after orgasm (known as a refractory period) is often a relaxing experience, attributed to the release of the neurohormones oxytocin and prolactin." -- Wikipedia.

What men say about their masturbation habits (wife-led marriage, woman-led)

     In aboutFLR.com on-going survey men who want FLR or are in one; tend to be married and in the 40s or 50s and most of them masturbate each week, 67% of men report masturbating one or more times each week. This means they are not very satisfied in their relationship and we can conclude neither is their mate. It goes without saying that guys know they are doing this and they know it is not helping them or their relationships. They even want help to stop so they can focus on their mate. 93% of men said they wanted chastity (where she controls the key) or at least accountability and 88% of men are at least curious about chastity.

     Women too are interested in orgasm denial, chastity and orgasm control. 97% of women want some control in his release and 67% are willing to hold the key. So if men want help and women want control, then either these people taking the survey are not communicating or they are not married to each other. There is a gap between where we are today and where we as people want to be.

The experiment continues (wife-led marriage, woman-led)

     It is still experimental but the results appear to be positive. Men who focus their sexual energy on their wives and wives who want that will have a stronger sex life. Men who mastrubate 0 times a week where they did in the past 3-7 times will be improving their drive to please their mates. Women who participate or lead in chastity will be getting his attention, admiration, and likely his best.

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Women were asked
I want to control Sex?
15% 1% 9% 75%
 
 
 
 
Final Word No Shared Yes

*on-going poll requested of women

90% of women want the final word in control of sex in their relationship. So no means no and yes means now? Couple this with the 76% women who want his participating in initiating sex and there will be a little confusion on the part of men. Women will need to train men to respond to their cues or need to just tell him when to start.

 
Women were asked
I want him to make himself attractive for me?
5% 1% 94%
 
 
 
Depends No Yes

*on-going poll requested of women

Women overwhelmingly want their men to make themselves more attractive. 99% of those polled were positive about it. Men in FLR will be asked to make themselves attractive by losing weight, better clothes, better grooming and improving the way they carry themselves.

 

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