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Submissives love well defined relationships but don't need a lot of rules. Standards work better. The standard of a clean home is a goal you both want and she will feel good about serving you in that way. The standard of a positive attitude will make him a better servant to you. Many submissives want to be punished, especially by spanking and corner time. This is both erotic and corrective.
Author: Victor 2011-01-29 17:25:54    [reply]

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The best advice is don't control everything just the really important things that helps him grow
Author: Admin 2011-02-16 06:17:03    [reply]
Is anyone else afraid that they might go to far in their FLR? Sometimes I enjoy the pampering and the power so much that I am afraid I am going to take too much advantage of my husband. Is that even possible in an FLR? What does that say about me? Does that make me some sort of control monster or something?
Author: JustWondering 2011-01-01 15:57:28    [reply]
JustWondering I don't think anything you do could exceed what some of the women who have FLR blogs do. I've cited several in my comments to various discussions on this site. There is another blog at http://mainesub.blogspot.com that you might find interesting. The woman ruled the roost from the start of the marriage, but one day her husband defied her and she acted to tighten her control. If you look at the blog, be sure to read the early postings and also the comments to each posting. I especially suggest reading a February 11, 2011 post there titled "Breaking your man" and the comments to that post. There is a discussion, mainly among FLR women bloggers about training their husbands. You can find the other blogs by clicking on the name of the commenter. Her blog will be in her profile list. There are references in the discussion to what some of the women have been doing recently, so you might want to follow those to read more about them. If you read some of those details, I don't think you would regard anything you are thinking about as going too far.
Reply by: Nerd 2011-02-24 10:59:01    [reply]
Nerd I know the mainesub-blog and in my opinion this is an example that female lead realtionships CAN go too far, at least sometimes. For example: In this blog the Domme explained that she will reveal the sissi-status of her husband to unaware people if he chooses to disobey her. This is cleary blackmail and cannot be considered as ethical. Also: Read the topic "pain and fear" where her husband wrote that she whipped him that hard that it took weeks for his as to heal. Is this responsible behaviour? I don't want to condemn the whole marriage, I am sure there are very satisfying moments for both, but in these situations she went too far.
Reply by: Cheryl 2011-12-06 17:38:31    
JustWondering Of course you can go too far! Remember: safe, sane and consensual. Only people with free will and a functioning ego can consent. I don't know whether those who say "anything goes, cut off his nuts if you want to!" have any tether to reality or not, but it's always possible to create a small social spaces where nutty fantasies become abhorrent practices. (Jonestown, the Manson family, Al Qaida, the Nazi party, etc.) This site is very different from other FLR/femdom sites for its thoughtful consideration of whether and how FLR can exist in reality. That said, I do wonder: what is too far? "Consenting" to being coerced is a paradox, but it is the core of the sexual charge that lights up FLR for many. To me, the moment when I know I can opt out, but choose to see what's behind the next curtain, is the essense of submission and adventure in FLR. I'm sure your partner feels this, Just Wondering.
Reply by: Guest 2011-03-02 06:01:31    [reply]
JustWondering WOW I want my wife of 16 years to take MORE control -- I do a bunch of housework for her -- bought her whatever she desires -- on our last alone weekend -- went antiquing and thrift store shopping and did not even take a fishing pole for me -- Were you vanilla [traditional] before the FLR started -- how can I get a fire behind her butt on this --- Drumr - edited by staff [reason: spelling, jargon]
Reply by: Guest 2013-07-23 16:31:09    [reply]
OMG get a clue! You say, "I do a bunch of housework for her." That means you think it's (all!) her job!
Reply by: Attentiveadoringobedient_2 2014-01-11 18:46:17    
You are afraid of going too far? Please remember that this is consensual, and that he is getting a very valuable experience in serving you. He probably wants you to take it much farther than your willing to, but communication is the key. That said, if you are willing to push his boundaries a bit, my guess is you will both be pleased.
Author: Her.husband 2011-01-26 19:36:39    [reply]
The men I know who want fem leadership are already willing to assume some level of control, yet they are in need of some deprogramming to allow them the freedom to not be controlled. I guess I mean they need to learn more self control. Most men are ashamed or at least shy about asking for fem leadership
Author: Rita 2011-09-19 05:41:26    [reply]
Rita Not about asking for leadership, but asking for control, punishment and training. Men are embarrassed about wanting to be subservient when society tell them to be strong and lead.
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-09-20 19:19:01    [reply]
Rita My heart exactly -- I am IN CONTROL all the other areas of my professional life -- I want to serve her and let her lead me when I get home -- DESPERATE for More.... Drumr - edited by staff [reason: spelling]
Reply by: Guest 2013-07-23 16:34:22    [reply]

 

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