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Here is a relavent quote about female leadership "Most women may not realize it, but they already possess the qualities to make them great leaders. Unfortunately, these natural capabilities are being suppressed by their need to follow the rules they were taught in childhood for how little girls were supposed to behave." The Feminization of Leadership
Author: Admin 2011-01-31 18:11:36    [reply]

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Mainstream society views women who take on the leadership role in their romantic relationship as bossy and controlling, with a fondness for physical, emotional and sexual dominance. Many still view female-led relationships as counter to the Christian-based culture that our nation has adopted, without taking into consideration the leadership skills that women provide. Women can manage and lead a relationship just as effectively as they can a company. Who wouldn’t want a partner who is empowering, supportive, and collaborative, with the courage to command and the commonsense to trust?
Author: Liz 2011-02-20 13:05:22    [reply]
Liz Our culture was founded as a secular by product of the enlightenment, a subset of which is today based in Christianity.
Reply by: Chris68 2011-08-22 07:00:22    
Liz Now, one question I do have (as a man of faith), has to do with justifying an FLR to myself, as well as other who will find out (I don't live secret lives). Of course, a partner who is empowering, supportive, etc. would be awesome, but the issue goes a little deeper than that. My question, therefore, is how do I live an FLR and still remain congruent with the bible? (not saying mainstream Christianity, because that is a bunch of whoey a lot of the time.)
Reply by: Smoore5527 2012-06-27 18:22:25    

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The so called "glass ceiling", the tendency for men to be the leaders -- share your experiences. What about home and the idea that if you lead at home you are bossy or a bitch?
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 17:41:50    [reply]
Admin Being male and bossy has its derogatory labels as well. Leadership styles vary among men as well as among women.
Reply by: Chris68 2011-08-22 07:01:57    [reply]
We should discuss the culture and language of male leadership, it seems to me that any movement towards female leadership would need to correct statement like "man of the house", and "wive's tales". It seems like we are all taught these things but not formally.
Author: Admin 2010-12-12 09:19:54    [reply]
I have been wondering how this will work when a couple has kids? Especially if the FLR is an means to an end and not a way we will live our lives forever....What types of roles will we have around our children to make sure they are not negatively effected by our relationship choice?
Author: Sam77 2010-12-29 08:07:42    [reply]
Sam77
Why hide it, you are still a man and she a woman, relationships that work are the issue, model a good one for the kids

Reply by: Ben 2010-12-29 10:12:12    [reply]
Ben....you are right. If the goal is to raise children who are confident, then there is no need to hide the way our relationship works. We want to do this, but I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around having an "alternate" type of relationship. Ours has always been egalitarian...and I guess to some (especially the older generations) that is a "kid damaging" type of deal too. Times change, I am just hoping that our relationship can also.
Reply by: Sam77 2011-01-01 15:21:52    
Sam77 FLR may be different but at the lower levels it is not an alternate relationship. In level 4 yes it is way alternate but there is no social rule that says women can't be the leader of their family and informally many are now, just make it formal.
Reply by: Guest 2011-01-31 18:19:57    
Sam77 I hadn't thought about my own family until I read this question. I'm old enough that people expected me to be a teacher or a nurse. I was brought up in a home that was very like the flr. I am amazed when I look back at it. My mom worked. My dad taught school. My dad and I had the same hours. Mom left directions about things that needed done or we already knew. My dad didn't put it off on me. We both did the things to take care of the home. While my dad took care of bookkeeping type things, my mom handled the food budget. Eating out was part of that food budget. She went to the register and paid when we ate out. People in town would kid with my dad (who was a great kidder, anyway) but he would just shrug and tell them he had her exactly where he wanted her. I will admit that I was amazed at all the things my husband thought he shouldn't do after growing up with a man who cooked, washed clothes, and generally took care of things that needed doing just as much as my mother. By the way, my sons can do it all. I started teaching them early. (I teased them about calling me Majesty but we always laughed about that.)
Reply by: Victoria 2011-02-01 09:50:40    [reply]
Sam77 The thing that negatively affects children is an unhealthy relationship. The role you should have is setting an example of a healthy, loving relationship. Kids need to see that. It makes them feel secure, and it gives them a template for what a relationship should be. The "who leads who" aspect of that is secondary. There is so much divorce in this country. The best gift you can possibly give your children is a loving, stable home with two parents working together.
Reply by: Nate 2016-11-21 07:50:29    [reply]
"1.Women leaders are more persuasive than their male counterparts. 2.When feeling the sting of rejection, women leaders learn from adversity and carry on with an "I'll show you" attitude. 3.Women leaders demonstrate an inclusive, team-building leadership style of problem solving and decision making. 4.Women leaders are more likely to ignore rules and take risks." Qualities of Women Leaders
Author: Guest 2011-01-31 19:02:15    [reply]
Guest Some of Deborah Tannen's books and papers describe how women use language differently from men when they exercise leadership.
Reply by: Nerd 2011-02-19 19:23:03    [reply]
Guest This seems like good high level thinking, but in my experience does not map to reality. I don't know that leadership qualities are intrinsic at all based on gender. The strongest argument one could make is socialization, but again, in my workplace which is 60% female run, there is no discernable difference between men and women in leadership. They display the same variance in style and ability as men do.
Reply by: Chris68 2011-08-22 08:59:31    [reply]
a quote "If you want to change the world love a woman, all the way through, until she believes you, until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion,her wildness have returned to her - until she is a force of love more powerful than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her."If you want to change the world love a woman
Author: Randell 2011-02-01 07:55:59    [reply]
Randell I absolutely love this quote. It is so true. Very, very true. I know there is that Hallmark like plaque for the wall that says that love is like a butterfly and you have to let it go. If you let it go, it will come back if you really love it. This is true of a woman. Smothering her and trying to direct her life just pushes all that old stuff about "ladies" down on her. Who doesn't want a wild woman who love to do that wild thing?
Reply by: Victoria 2011-02-01 09:42:50    [reply]
I know several women I have met that have a dominant and assertive nature, yet they claim that what they are pursuing is equality and 50/50, they show no interest to lead, and may even be repelled by the idea. Some even openly admit that they are dominant, and then make a clear point that they are looking for an equally dominant male, that can "handle them". I would like to think that these women have great potential to I know several women I have met that have a very dominant and assertive nature, yet they claim that what they are pursuing is equality and 50/50, they show no interest to lead, and may even be repelled by the idea. Some even openly admit that they are dominant, and then make a clear point that they are looking for an equally dominant male, that can "handle them". I would like to think that these women have great potential to enjoy FLR relationships, and become good leaders, yet they show no interest. You can argue that being dominant and assertive goes against women’s cultural upbringing, very true indeed, but you could say the same about men being submissive and followers (hey, we get called henpecked, pussywhipped etc), yet there seems to be no shortage of men who eagerly want an FLR. I’m strongly suspecting there must be some even deeper dynamic at play here. What are your thoughts on this?
Author: Servus Regina 2012-04-06 13:11:44    [reply]
Servus Regina There are less assertive women than compliant ones. Those who are confident and open minded are the best candidates for FLR and it takes time to think through the dynamic. MOst women 99% of them don`t want slavish projects - it is just more work for us. Good leaders are those who understand how to make things better for those they are leading and thus make it better for themselves. Submission I think is pretend, I think what submission should really amounts to is cooperation, support and help. Men should be servant leaders and that would make them great followers.
Reply by: SusanM88 2012-04-06 22:05:59    [reply]
SusanM88 I should have said Active Submission, which is what I meant all along, and which you quite correctly observed and pointed out. Thankyou.
Reply by: Servus Regina 2012-04-07 11:16:34    
SusanM88 "servant leaders"? and how is that defined,when am I supposed to lead and when am I the servant; women don't want flr,(There are less assertive women than compliant ones) then may want a helpful, supportive and cooperative man but women only want to lead when they want to and they can. I am not sure what active submission means. Maybe that I lead until she wants to and then I abdicate the leadership position only to go back to leading when she wants. Not really sating. Thanks for the time.
Reply by: Guest 2012-04-07 14:11:25    
I have been advising women who are meeting men online who say they want FLR to ask them to perform. What I mean is to do things that show they willingness and ability to follow. The best thing is to get them outside of their interest area or skill set such as poetry, an essay on how to have a dinner party, or a game of defining what it means to love. The tell tale alarms I get when men go after dominance first and FLR second are their obsessions with formulas. Women looking at FLR need to take over the conversation and lead from the start, get the guy doing things that show their potential as FLR mates and friends.
Author: Ann1000Days 2012-07-16 18:21:40    [reply]
I love the latest comment from Ann100Days. That is the perfect way of describing a powerful form of engaging a man's energies, while tapping into creative talents that can be used for great enjoyment in time to come. Outside of the comfort zone or skill set. Brilliant. Thank you for your valuable insight.
Author: Incendiumignis 2012-07-20 05:55:51    [reply]
With the loss of Maya Angelou the world has lost a great,thoughtful and wonderful women! Let us all think of how she lead not one but the world. Sincerely gat1207
Author: Gat1207 2014-05-29 14:14:59    [reply]

 

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