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Let's make this thread useful again, most of the crap that has been contributed was deleted because it was not useful for others users, just some dribble how he gets none and she gets it all the time. Think about how others will get something out of your contribution.
Author: Ann1000Days 2013-02-08 22:36:41    [reply]

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I have to say I like climaxing together very much but sometimes just for me is good too. There is a shared experience about both of us loving each other to climax that you don`t get with sex just for me. I like both but together better.
Author: Susan 2011-08-03 14:42:59    [reply]
Susan My wife seems to be of a similar mind while I remain conflicted. As I mentioned in a previous post, we have agreed that she will control that aspect of sex, but has never really exerted that control. I always ask and she always says yes. I think I would mind less about the instances of 'yes' if there were even occasional instances of 'no'.
Reply by: Chris68 2011-08-17 10:06:27    [reply]
Playing with male chastity/FLR has lead to the best sex of our 17+ year marriage. As a submissive, I am excited with the "sex is for her" concept. She is the queen and I am a worker bee, working to satisfy her needs. It has left an intense passion for me to pleasure her as best as I can, especially when I am locked and my own orgasm is "off the table". She likes the control aspect but I think she also likes that I pay more attention to her outside of the bedroom. My orgasms lead to a big drop in interest in sex and service to her. She notices this. She prefers that I am constantly horny and thinking of her because I am more submissive, more service-oriented, and more loving. I wish this wasn't so, but the biochemistry of male orgasms just seems to be not on my side. Interestingly, female orgasm doesn't bring about the same "let down". I would say that she probably climaxes 4-5 times per every time I climax. She has hinted that she would like to have a more formal agreement in our FLR, with stated expectations.
Author: Lovetosubmit 2011-08-20 09:27:46    [reply]
As a man, I love sex just for her. Part of the reason is that it was too much about me for too long. This one single act - satisfying her while getting none - should be something all men do regularly. For me, it's how I prove to myself that I've really changed, and that nothing else I'm doing is about sex. I need to satisfy her while getting nothing, so that I can be happy with myself that all the other things I do are about her and our relationship, and have no strings attached to a sexual goal. Plus it gives me such an amazing rush :) Using a strap-on with her, while staying locked in chastity, is the ultimate experience that all couples should try. Now, having said all of that, I still think that fornication with mutual orgasm is a fundamental bonding experience all couples need to experience at least once a year, maybe more but not too often. I believe it is best if the man is denied penetration most of the time. But, there is no one single path to happiness and if she needs that to be happy, then it's what she should do.
Author: AlwaysLearning 2012-06-02 18:50:01    [reply]
I view her decision to seek satisfaction as a positive. This is exactly what I desire from a sexual point of view. I appreciate knowing that I'm providing exactly what she wants when she wants it. It wasn't always this clear cut. For many years she felt uncomfortable about not returning the favor so to speak. Not until she and I decided that she was better suited to control my sexual needs did she begin to enjoy sex totally on her terms.
Author: Usaabn 2012-08-27 15:19:39    [reply]
Every woman knows that after a man has an orgasm, he will be less submissive and attentive to her... Therefore, keeping the male under strict lock and key although perhaps somewhat cruel is probably the best way to keep the male under control and make her work hard for sexual relief as a reward. It is also psychologically devastating when the woman turns the release of reward into a less than pleasurable experience for the male...thus he is denied the pleasure he has been seeking all month under lock and key, for example. Turing the male orgasm into a humiliating event messes with his mind.
Author: Cbotrader 2012-10-08 16:30:43    [reply]
Cbotrader Strange logic, I wonder how many women will lose respect for a man she needs to control and it might take the romance and sensual out of sex and make it mechanical. I like the idea of chastity enhancing a relationship by keeping the guy interested, in I also feel a sense of authority, perhaps power knowing he is dependent on me in that one special way, even if he is not in any other.
Reply by: Selma 2012-10-12 17:07:41    [reply]
Cbotrader "Messing with his mind" does not seem to be a loving FLR. It is just the opposite of men who do their thing and always leave their partner unsatisfied.
Reply by: Motleyfoool 2014-01-03 09:22:50    [reply]
Guys if you are locked up in chastity and she wants to make love most of the time, she wants penetration, you are locked up - what now?
Author: Gwen 2015-04-22 18:08:07    [reply]
My wife has a strap on that use, it is a silicon replica of my penis made from a mold of my penis. Most of the time she is happy with oral.
Reply by: Guest 2018-02-05 20:15:25    [reply]
My strap on gives my wife the pleasure of penteration when she desires that. I very rarely get the honor of me being inside my lovely wife once maybe twice a year. That is a special honor that she will decide. My lovely wife seems to be happy being pleased oraly most of the time.
Author: Guest 2015-07-04 13:15:38    [reply]
GuestIf that works for you it is the right pattern for your lovemaking. We are now in the mode where only she decides whether we make love. I am happy to have just oral sex but we usually have intercourse and the main object is her satisfaction, then we stop.
Reply by: Motleyfoool 2015-07-05 12:44:02    [reply]
Having a rather thin willy, that does not work full-time, I have become accustomed to deriving my pleasure from providing oral sex, before, during, and after a Woman has enjoyed the attention of an Alpha Male. Watching Her and knowing that She is getting exactly what She wants is very, very satisfying!
Author: Chastity53 2016-07-11 19:41:33    [reply]
Chastity53 Assume the "Woman" is your wife? or a generic woman?
Reply by: Motleyfoool 2016-07-14 14:10:23    [reply]
I am constantly in chastity, initially I would be released once a week to service my wife then locked again but four months ago an old friend turned up in town and they started a lesbian relationship no more rooting or wanking for me I am permitted to watch them enjoy each other but that just makes me horny
Author: Bobby 2016-08-19 18:03:27    [reply]
Bobby how do u handle it? My wife started me wearing a belt 2 months ago and I been in it 7 days straight and already going nuts. She won't tell me when we can have sex or masturbate. She teases me everyday and my crotch is literally always on fire and aching. It's erotic and I love it but I don't think I can handle much longer without release. How do u do it? I can't get it off either without asking her for the key or cutting it off which than she will be pissed and I don't want that
Reply by: HerPet7 2016-09-12 09:44:53    [reply]

 

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