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Share then, why do you love punishment?
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 17:32:25    [reply]
I love it because to me, it is an expression of her love for me. Also, it is an intense and visceral way to feel her power and strength. Very attractive.
Author: Chris68 2011-08-24 11:54:20    [reply]
In regard of my experiences as a boy in a mostly female led boarding school, I just would say that women and elder girls were clearly strict and severe in regard of discipline. So, I never made another experience that females use to go the straight way, while male teachers mostly were more generous. In FLR I know women are mostly strict and severe and expect perfect discipline. - staff deleted personal experiences are fine [simply not true, most women in FLR don't use physical punishment except as a last resort]
Author: Frederik 2012-01-20 02:31:45    [reply]
Frederik Sounds like a guys fantasy from reading stories. Women are not on earth to be strict disciplinarians. Sounds like your boarding school should be investigated for gender abuse. What is the name of that boarding school Frederik? I'd like to investigate.
Reply by: Guest 2012-01-20 08:13:44    [reply]
Discipline is a strong expression of love, care and concern, it is intended to return an errant child or man to his rightful place within the fold.
Author: Shadow2659 2012-08-04 15:07:31    [reply]
I am fortunate enough to be in a FLR where I am and feel loved valued and respected ... I know my fantastic wife feels the same and also worshiped and adored... she has the final word and yes on occasion uses a cane to re-enforce a point or as sexual foreplay ... i could not be happier and I aim to make her the happiest woman in the world !
Author: Ooohmore 2012-08-08 19:35:26    [reply]
Discipline and punishment are used effectively only when punishment is really punishment and not used for play pleasure. The purpose should be to teach the male that some behavior he has exhibited is not acceptable and not to be repeated. Punishment can be painful, embarrassing or whatever, but it should not be pleasurable. After a long week of work, putting your male in a cage for two days can be worse than a beating, especially if he is in chastity and cannot touch his genitals. Punishment must have purpose and for it to be effective the punishment must be worse than the order in which he failed. If he performs oral service for his woman poorly, he faces a day or two in the cage with only water. The next time you order him to pleasure you, he will perform much better!
Author: Cbotrader 2012-10-08 16:35:41    [reply]
Cbotrader wow are you off, way off, first positive rewards for doing good is the best way to get behavior change in anyone. next, negative consequences like the ones you describe are pure fantasy, no real couple can have any kind of relationship with that kind of activity in their lives. It would be my guess that you have a fantasy you want to introduce to others to with your cages and extremes, that is okay. I'll bet you have a terrible time keeping a relationship going.
Reply by: Selma 2012-10-12 16:55:05    [reply]
Cbotrader Didn't we learn in the Introductions MAG that an FLR man can be be characterized as a gentleman, with good behavior, who enjoys pleasing his partner? And that the FLR woman longs for happiness, fulfillment, and connection? So you really think a woman would be happy, fulfilled, and connected to a man she threw in a cage for two days with no food because he didn't perform well in bed? Please be for real. What you are saying belongs on a porn site.
Reply by: Baldilocks 2012-10-16 07:23:55    [reply]
Cbotrader when you do wrong and there is no punishment , you get the idea in your head you can get away next time.
Reply by: Cyclanics22 2017-09-06 10:55:26    [reply]
I think guys like this because someone is paying very close attention to them, you can't whip someone without being there, so it is a way to get control of their environment. I think ignoring them might be better for discipline.
Author: Guest 2012-10-17 08:57:54    [reply]
I think that punishment exists in two states, firstly the imagined which to some, myself included is pleasurable and the second state the actuality which is painful and has to be endured. That being said whether one accepts it is down to the relationship between the the punisher and the punished. If you accept punishment from one you love then it will reinforce her control over you and retrospectively have pleasurable associations. Provided it is not designed to destroy a person's self respect it will be useful and beneficial to the relationship.
Author: Ian 2012-11-25 09:21:50    [reply]
Ian The jury is not out on this, this looks to be justification for fetish and really has nothing to do with discipline. If a couple wants to do it, fine but most couples will not unless they engage in it for training and reinforcement or rules when all else fails, as in behavior modification.
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2012-11-25 22:10:43    [reply]
Lets talk about attention. The act of being punished tends to shrink the works to a focal point on the one being punished. So is this a way to get attention from your mate?
Author: Prickly Pear 2013-01-22 21:25:35    [reply]
I never thought of it that way before, sound right though. I think it also tells me she is still interested in me because she took the time to punish. I admit it, it is erotic.
Author: Guest 2013-01-24 08:42:36    [reply]
I think it is important to have discipline and punishment in my life because I understand that I have done wrong and need to pay the price for my wrong doings and I also enjoy the feeling after the spanking is over. I am very warm and I feel better because I have paid the price for my wrong doings. That is why I like punishment.
Author: ServEd50 2013-05-21 09:25:58    [reply]
I too need female discipline. I had a relationship where my lady would punish me by caning me for bad behaviour, etc. we would always discuss why I deserved to be punished, but here decision was final and I had to accept whatever level of punishment she decided was appropriate. To be honest, she didn't hold back! It was extremely painful, but not brutal.
Author: Bluesman_2 2016-06-16 01:56:02    [reply]
Consider - discipline does not always need to be corporal. In a lot of cases my discipline tended to be sleeping separately, withholding of some coveted freetime, an expression of disappointment, a letter that I required from him of future intent. Corporal punishment/discipline was either a last resort of frustration or usually led to kink.
Author: Dilago 2017-09-24 04:45:01    [reply]
Through lots of reading on this subject I decided over time to incorporate corporal punishment. It has grown over time and gotten easier for me. I understand the benefits for both of us better. I also take away watching sports or golf outings, hanging out with his guy friends, going out with co-workers(Fridays only). I also add chores, duties and responsibilities. But ultimately there are times when a darn good spanking is needed and given! I was shocked when my husband asked if he could be spanked rather than cancel a golf game! (He hates having to come up with a good excuse and disappointing his friends especially if it's last minute. I understand the discomfort and it takes a lot to get me to take away that privilege especially at the last minute.) I waited until Sat. a.m. to administer the spanking before he left to meet his golf buddies. I made sure he was going to get what was needed and also get him to think twice about a spanking in lieu of something else. (Perhaps I'd gone easier on him than I knew) I know sitting in the golf cart could not have been pleasant especially over bumps! So far he's never requested to trade a spanking for golf again. I've even politely offered, lol.
Author: Hub'sWife 2017-10-16 01:20:17    [reply]
Hub'sWife You made the right choice. He will remember the spanking long after the memory of a golf game has faded.
Reply by: Motleyfoool 2017-10-31 08:43:29    [reply]
Everbody needs Attention, if there is no Attention through speaking then he will get Attention with provokation which ends in corporal punishment. Also, in the end he gets attention.
Author: Beowulf 2017-10-04 15:54:03    [reply]
yeah.thats right
Author: Toniajey 2017-10-17 17:09:32    [reply]

 

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