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I bought a CB device for kicks and tried it. I like the idea of chastity but never told my wife. It was hard to install and awkward to wear as it shows through soft clothes like gym shorts and sweat pants. It also makes it look like I have constant arousal in my jeans, only pleated pants seem to hide it so it fits under a suit. Installing it for the first time was heart as my dingy was so tight in it I had to use lotion. The size rings were difficult to understand too. Finally I got it on and used it for the first time for an hour. Interesting!
Author: Guest 2011-08-06 07:15:36    [reply]
Guest Why not share this exciting event with your wife? Join and complete MAG and then approach her. Who knows you both may be happy with the results. From what I understand a keyholder is a lot better that a devise. Interested! gat1207
Reply by: Gat1207 2011-11-10 14:09:11    [reply]
I did it the wrong way; I read about orgasm denial and chastity and FLR's and just learned about it for a while before ever mentioning it to her. I bought my device while she was away without her knowledge. My thinking is, I wanted to get the fit right, see if I liked it and then bring it up. I wish I hadn't done that. At any rate, it took me a while to get the right fit, and we have played with it on and off. I enjoy being locked but not really so much during work. It's just a distraction and I have to make other arrangements to urinate and go to the gym. I do love being locked during our lovemaking sessions. I enjoy being handcuffed/restrained also, and I view the CB-6000S as an extension of that. The feeling of trying to get erect due to my wife's stimulation is intense. If my wife wants to deny orgasm from me, I would prefer to be locked myself, since it just takes the possibility of masturbating out of the equation. She prefers that I use willpower though, so being locked seems to be only for times when she is away.
Author: Lovetosubmit 2011-08-20 09:13:00    [reply]
I had an exciting and interesting experience of male chastity. After fantasising about a Female friend having control of my orgasms I found the courage to get down on one knee and sincerly ask Her if She would take that control by sending a sms text giving Her decision each day plus any details that pleased or amused Her. In return for this I offered to be available for any boring,heavy ,or dirty work she could do without. Also i agreed to deliver some nice chocolate once a week. I found the frustration turned into a general feeling of excitement and positivity. i got enormous pleasure handmaking chocolates for her and choosing flowers. The thought of her made me tremble with pleasure and i found the small amount of menial work she asked me to do exceedingly fulfilling. This relationship ,based on friendship, worked well for 6 months. The relationship came to a natural end when she married a much richer and younger man who also was submissive. I attended her wedding and we are still good friends. She told me the experience was very empowering for her and improved her confidence in her own worth.
Author: Guest 2011-11-10 11:16:13    [reply]
Guest How is that about female led relationships - that is really about fantasy fulfillment - right guys?
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2011-11-10 18:42:19    [reply]
I agree. This appears to be about fantasy fulfillment which I think is completely fine. I would struggle doing this to myself.
Reply by: Searching2016 2016-05-11 14:19:55    
My apology for misunderstanding the appropriateness of my sharing,however in the context of a long standing friendship, love was an important ingredient,probably the only important one.
Author: Guest 2011-11-12 16:06:46    [reply]
The device is uncomfortable at first but, it grows on you. It definetely raises your sexual drive and desires which makes it exciting.
Author: Padawan 2012-05-27 11:41:54    [reply]
It seems we men often step into chastity with a device before letting our leaders know. I have done exactly the same, my chastity cage arrived the day before TerriAnn left on a business trip. I'm into day 2 now, this is the first time in months that I've lived two days without pleasuring myself. The cage is not really uncomfortable, although it's impossible to ignore. I've taken it off twice to check on things, and I'm very proud that I had enough control to put it back on without playing. Today I left the keys at home when I left for work. TerriAnn will be back today, and I have made plans to make dinner then open up about my masturbation habit and my need to change. She's very vanilla, she's always led our relationship (27 years in October), but she's always been uncomfortable about taking the symbolic steps that are meaningful to me. Over the years she has gradually allowed me to become more submissive. And tonight, ummmmm, I'll give her the keys. I feel as if, finally, I'm giving her full control. Thank you all for letting me be open about this.
Author: TerriAnn`s 2012-08-24 10:38:00    [reply]
Day 5 now. Yesterday TerriAnn used me in the morning and allowed me freedom for the rest of the day. It was a tremendous rush when she held one of the keys out for me. And when she used me there was certainly a difference. I left the cage off for 12 hours and put it back on last night. This is strange to say, but I was actually glad to snap the lock shut again. So far today I've felt less aroused than last week. I want the novelty to wear off so that I'm not thinking about being caged all the time. After all, I chose to do this because I need to be a better servant and companion as well as a better performer in bed.
Author: TerriAnn`s 2012-08-27 10:48:32    [reply]
It's done. TerriAnn took the keys from me. She got home very late last night so there was no dinner. After she got comfrotable with a glass of wine and rested from driving, I knelt and explained that I needed to change my life. She's very uncomfortable with my chastity, I knew she would be, but she undestands and she wants time to get used to it. This morning she laid down the rules. She does not want to see the cage, I must always wear underwear around the house and in bed. When she wants to use me, she'll let me out. Otherwise, I've been neutered.
Author: TerriAnn`s 2012-08-25 09:19:22    [reply]
It would seem logical to me (although not pleasant) that as long as I have the freedom to orgasm as I please, she does not have much control over me. Taking that away is a serious psychological step forward in establishing the premise that everything I have comes from her and I am no longer a free man...I belong to her on a level that is NO LONGER as equals.
Author: Cbotrader 2012-10-08 16:08:31    [reply]
I have been interested in chastity for several months now and finally got the nerve up to bring it up. She loved the idea! She told me to order the 1 that I wanted and she would do the rest. It is supposed to come tomorrow and I'm starting to get terrified at the thought of being locked up! Why did I ask for this? What have I got into?
Author: Guest 2016-08-08 22:26:51    [reply]
Guest I am certain you will enjoy it depending on your partner if she is fair to start off she should release you as per agreements but after a while be prepared for lengthy chastity it always happens, so I really hope you ordered a comfortable cock cage and it fits nice and tight, let us know how things are going in three months bet your caged for a record period and I hope she does not crack onto a playmate with a big dick or your in trouble
Reply by: Helen 2016-08-15 04:17:35    [reply]
I have just told my wife of my desire for chastity.at first she was not happy...I explained it as how it may or may not better our 20year marriage.she has agreed to research it.together,and she will also research it on her own...this is day 4 since I've told her my desires.shw took me to the local love shop to examine chastity devises...she warned me not to push her on this issue or she will fight back and I won't get what I want....it's difficult to wait....but I also want to do this in such a way that it will work.my intention is not only my fantasy,but to see her as happy and fulfilled as possible.i am antisipateing the day when we fully attempt to enter into this lifestyle.....
Author: Briguy 2016-10-23 13:21:02    [reply]
Briguy If you and your wife have gotten to look at new chastity devices and have purchased one it sounds like she has a open mind about the flr lifestyle and you may be on your way to a wonderful life. Wish I could get my wife to change her feelings. Enjoy.
Reply by: Guest 2016-10-29 12:46:09    [reply]
I purchased my first Chastity device and started to wear to get use to. I told my wife a few days a go about my desire to be in a flr with her and to be in chastity at all times to help honor and worship her. She doesn't like the idea of me in chastity and doesn't want to be in a flr relationship. I wish I could get her to change hem mind. Does anyone have idea's that could change my wife's feelings? I don't want to push her on the idea.
Author: Guest 2016-10-29 12:37:40    [reply]
GuestShe probably thinks you are crazy and what is the real reason that you want this, guilt about something? Any lifestyle changes should be discussed beforehand to get buy in by both parties, FLR or MLR.
Reply by: Motleyfoool 2016-10-29 14:04:28    [reply]
I told my wife about my desire for chastity several months ago, but she thought it was too perverted. She is VERY vanilla. It was very uncomfortable to discuss the issue and I confessed my masturbation habits as well. She was very surprised. I haven't given up, but am discouraged.
Author: Crawl 2016-11-01 18:46:50    [reply]
I have used a male chastity device since August it is a Holy Trainer probably the best very comfortable and when locked I hardly now it is on, my wife releases me every fortnight for shaving and cleaning while I am cuffed behind, I have not been permitted orgasm for 9 weeks this stint, I just adore being locked while I satisfy her with hand and mouth
Author: Ankener 2016-12-14 17:01:45    [reply]
I think my wife may be a bit harsh the other evening I was out and she played with me as usual after shaving, cleaning and showering, I did not mean to but I had a precum then quickly came I could not stop it, as punishment I am to be locked and not teased for 30 days, is that fair ?
Author: Guest 2016-12-31 13:19:41    [reply]
Guest I would think you got off pretty lightly buster, she makes the rules you just have to follow them, you know you should have told her to stop and you knew you were about to cum, if you were my husband your arse would certainly be very red and very sore you would not be able to sit for a few days
Reply by: Helen 2016-12-31 16:45:35    [reply]
You are right, after my wife cleaned and shaved me and my hands were behind my back in handcuffs as normal she started playing with me. I had a precum then I quickly came, I could not stop it. I did not mean to. I got my arse severely spanked, I should have told her to stop.
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