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Being aware of how she is feeling is how I do it. I look to see if she wants my help or if there is something I can do so she can spend more time at what ever she wants.
Author: 2011-03-02 12:09:01 [reply]
I can appreciate what you said above. Especially within a FLR context.
Author: 2011-03-27 11:44:12 [reply]
I think the most important thing is to pay attention. I don't have to be a mind reader to see opportunities to serve in little or big ways. It is a matter of putting my focus on her as often as possible so that I can see them readily. Secondarily, managing my stress level is a requirement. As I have tried to take on more in the past, it has come at a heavy price vs stress. If one is a servant, but a surly one, it is not that useful. Exercise helps as a break between work ending and home service beginning. Would appreciate other insights in this area if anyone has them.
Author: 2011-08-22 03:51:42 [reply]
The biggest thing is to understand the cues uses she leaves. She shouldn't need to constantly tell me to do things (though I love when she does). When you walk by the kitchen sink and there are dishes in it, don't wait to be told to wash them. Just do it. If she leaves her clothes on the floor it should be obvious that she wants you to pick them up. When she says "hmm there are some dust bunnies here" get out the vacuum immediately. When you know she likes to have a certain drink at a certain time, have it ready for her. Look for the signs and anticipate her needs. The other thing I try and do constantly its thank her. When she tells me to rub her feet I try and always thank her quickly for allowing me to rub her feet. It saves her feeling like she needs to thank me for doing it. One of the best things my wife said I did for her is to move out of the master bathroom. It is now for her sole use and she loves it. I use the bathroom down the hall. At some point I will also be taking my own bedroom. It doesn't mean I will never sleep in her bed but it means that the closet, drawers and decorating in the room will be all hers. Just as in her bathroom, there will be nothing of mine in the bedroom. The plan is for us to go to bed as normal and I serve her needs as per normal. The last thing I normally do every night is kneel at the foot of the bed and rub her feet. As I am getting ready to do that she will tell me whether she wants me to spend the night or to go off to my own room. I can hardly wait.
Author: 2012-05-07 05:35:33 [reply]
Paying attention and anticipating her preferences as mentioned above is important, but is it special? Doesn't special mean being more creative and imaginative than this? The best retailers don't just provide what a woman with what she already knows she wants, they surprise and delight her by offering services and experiences she hadn't even thought of yet, and that she finds pleasing and fulfilling. This should be our goal as FLR men.
Author: 2012-08-23 16:17:50 [reply]
Karim56 I like the idea is bigger and better but I have come to learn that women really like the day to day too, so I will plan as you say "to delight" which is exciting, and also do the little things that I can do everyday.
Reply by: 2013-01-22 21:13:44 [reply]
Special things I do for my wife. Well I would start by saying I try to reassure her and give her confidence in her decision making. I often create little cards and notes with messages on them about how I feel and how I feel about her. I find it easier to sit at my computer and write down my feelings and then give them to her than to try and tell her everything face to face. The best part is that my notes and cards lead to open and more frank talks afterwards
Author: 2013-01-03 15:26:45 [reply]
MEMBER1946 Try some floral arranging, it is good for everyone. Men get to know more about flowers and you both get some grace and beauty in your living space. I love flowers. Ask her to teach you what she knows about arranging a bouquet.
Reply by: 2013-01-22 21:16:37 [reply]
I bring her coffee every morning ,I am her butler & maid. I prepare a bubblebath once a week,after I towel her dry then serve hot tea,I sit at the foot of her favorite chair & serve her all that nite I love to wash her clothes,her intimates by hand ,,but she conciders this perverted ..Her favotite thing is forme to ride to the biker bar on the back of her Harley & bring soda & beer to our table,it is a bit embarrasing to me I am rewarded she often dresses in a provocative sexy style,skirt split to waist,her skirt so form fitting tight I can not breath to please me
Author: 2014-05-28 19:12:30 [reply]
Foot massages with lotion every few days without ever being asked and yes, I always thank her for allowing me to with rub her feet. Frequently recognizing her accomplishments, talent, intelligence and beauty. I bought me a custom polo shirt for Valentine’s day that has over the right breast “property of Jane” (not her real name). She gets a huge kick out of have me wear it in front of her friends or when we go out on date night. I go to work every morning rather early. When I get up the first thing I do is get her a glass of ice water for her, kiss her and then let her go back to sleep. Once a week or so, I ask her if she would like for me to take the kids somewhere so that she can have some quiet time.
Author: 2014-07-02 10:39:38 [reply]
The most important thing I do to serve my partner is to hear and validate her feelings, even when or especially when those feelings are strong and difficult. I listen actively and attentively to her while remembering not to offer solutions or advice unless she asks for it. Without that, it doesn't matter much I pamper her.
Author: 2014-07-17 14:41:03 [reply]
I'm really trying to figure out what being a TRUE servant to my wife means. I read SO MANY responses and posts that scream selfishness. My wife and I tried for her to be dominant before, but I was selfish about it. I wanted her to dominate me on MY terms, and I wasn't happy about doing what she wanted unless she did it in a certain way. I've now come to realize that true servant-hood in our marriage should be ONLY about her. After I've come to understand this, I now enjoy doing things for her even more and she actually loves it to. Just last night she said, "I love for you to do things for me, when I don't have to be mean to you". I think we are on the right path, albeit just starting the journey. I insisted she stay out for a dinner out after I got home for work while I cared for the kids, cleaned the house, got them ready for bed, did some laundry. I have massaged her (THOROUGHLY) each night and made it clear that giving her the massage and rubbing her body is all the reward I want and I don't want her to feel any sort of need to say thank you or that there are any other ulterior motives. I did the dishes this morning before work and made a pot of coffee with her mug next to the pot on the counter before leaving. Also, I set out a fresh towel for her by the shower. (I wanted to hang the laundry but I didn't have time, should I apologize to her for that?) I am truly enjoying this new journey, and hope this motivation can stay with me for the long-term. I am LOVING serving her and really want her to be the HEAD of the household. I would love for her to be more bossy and demanding, but I am easing into this, and I think as she comes to EXPECT certain things (massages each night, dishes to be done, laundry hung) she will start to be more demanding about them. Thoughts?
Author: 2017-06-07 07:53:38 [reply]