Are men promoting healthy positive relationships by participating in internet porn?

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Are men promoting healthy positive relationships by participating in internet porn?

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This is a rhetorical question - of course it is not healthy, not for men, not for women, not for the models. Porn is designed to stimulating a compulsive interest from the audience. How many compulsions do you know that are good? Aside from the freedom of expression aspect which is good, porn is destructive; and we can have freedom of expression without it being porn.
Author: Ann1000Days 2015-03-09 18:53:28   
Ann1000Days Thank You Miss Ann for asking. my compulsions that are healthy are 1) FLR = meeting a wonderful Dominant Matriarch building & nurturing a harmonious FLR. 2) Bicycle riding, i absolutely feel a healthy addiction to riding my bikes at a vigorous aerobic tempo. 3) Sunshine , the sun is like a giant bright yellow Prozac pill in the sky lol. the fog and rain has its charm but to me sunshine brings effervescent life to my day. 4) Juicing, i feel empty and incomplete if i cannot use my classic 1960's VitaMix blender / juicer on a daily basis. Thank You Miss Ann, steven
Reply by: Steven4FLR 2015-06-23 17:00:08    
Ann1000Days Ooops, previous reply was put in moderators comments by mistake. I belongs below.
Reply by: CactusGerry 2015-10-10 06:35:13    
Is all use of porn compulsive? I have to agree with Submissive Male. Most of these responses remind me of students parroting back the words of the professor in order to get a good grade while learning very little. I don't know what the effect of porn is on individual relationships and what other people do is of little concern to me. As for myself, I've decided to avoid the whole issue by voluntarily deleting the collection of porn on my computer and no longer viewing it on the internet. Since it was just masturbation material anyway and I've given my partner a vow of chastity outside the relationship, it serves no purpose anyway.
Reply by: CactusGerry 2015-10-10 06:04:19    

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Internet porn is detrimental to success in FLR on several levels. Internet porn (e.g. Femdom) does not portray or represent women in FLR; it is an illusion seeking to attract and tantalise men with unfulfilled desires. Inevitably, the fantasy recurs and the man may becomes obsessed with sating his fantasies to the point of addiction. These actions could exacerbate problems within the relationship, because the man is performing them without his partner's consent. These secret quick fix acts of self-gratification could lead to feelings of guilt and shame, knowing that if the partner found out it would be seen as an act of betrayal, as if having an extramarital affair. One of the (many) advantages of FLR is that men can talk openly to their partner (or in theory should be able to) about sexual fantasies. Whether the woman chooses to indulge the man in his particular kink is entirely her decision, but she denies she will have good and valid reasons for doing so. The man should then respect and adhere to the woman's decision because she is (naturally) the leader and director of the relationship and it is his duty as her husband to obey.
Author: SterlingServer 2018-02-04 18:06:30   
SterlingServer thank you for this post. It speaks volumes to the destructiveness of Internet porn. Furthermore, my wife and I are finding out about the advantages of our FLR regarding open comunication. I have (through a writen agreement drafted by her and discussed by us) given open and full disclosure to my "old" habits. It is so refreshing to be open to the woman I love and cherish. Thank you so very much for this valuable insight on this new path that she is leading us down.
Reply by: Mary&todd 2018-02-07 18:04:58   
Viewing internet porn is disloyal, deceptive and unfaithful to your woman. She will lost respect for her follower and her heart will turn against the man that betrays her.
Author: Jammes12 2018-01-26 06:44:02   
People forget that porn is a form of film making which involves the bending of reality to create an illusory situation that people forget is not real. In this way it can depict a connection but that connection is not real and certainly the connection between the consumer and the images on the screen in no way establishes a real connection. The tendency to get caught up in the belief of reality is much easier to establish than on TV or in the movies. But believing that what is going on on the screen is real is like the belief that a certain character on a TV show is real. Apparently, this occurs more often than people realize. So this is one of the dangers of porn, creating the illusion that what is going on the screen is a real situation. Incidents like this sap a person's grip on reality and they get caught up in a fantasy world that can only end up in disappointment. Another responder made the point that in certain contexts within the couple porn can be a form of entertainment and instruction, just as in certain contexts masturbation can be a source of entertainment. (supervised masturbation for example) So porn can work in certain contexts as long as it is approached with understanding and humour.
Author: Simmer51 2017-12-31 18:38:36   
No, men are not promoting healthy positive relationships by consuming porn. Porn gives a distorted view of reality and it is necessary to leave it behind to ground oneself and create your own reality where the woman directs the relationship according to her needs as opposed to some porn-style fantasy that caters to the fantasy of the male.
Author: Simmer51 2017-12-31 10:19:08   
no although different kins and fetishes can be explored by using it as an educational tool and for a source of ideas.
Author: Alphaman 2017-11-01 10:22:03   
No of course not - women are important in today's society as such they are to be respected, given full attention to, and viewed as an important component within our culture
Author: Whateveryoudesire 2017-10-31 21:08:34   
I do not feel as if men are promoting healthy relationships by participating in internet porn I must learn to trust that if my behavior is suitable that my mate will provide me with what she feels is appropriate
Author: Igor2learn 2017-10-22 17:35:56   
No. It is still pornography and Women are treated as sexual objects. It supports wrong expectations towards Women and distracts the attention needed in the relationship.
Author: Johnyyyy 2017-10-06 08:19:33   
Heck no! It is fantasy, not reality. And it has nothing to do with her direction. Her direction is what is essential in his life.
Author: ProfessionallookingforhisBOSS 2017-10-02 12:42:38   
Understanding of relationships I guess now that I'm getting older is a lot more vast and deep than it was when I was younger I always thought it was about the me I would get lost in the fantasy of p*** the fantasy of what my life should be not knowing that this search that I was searching needed a guide needed a helper needed somebody to Lead Me and by me seeing my not going anywhere method and by allowing my will to submit to her will to follow her ideas her dreams not saying I cannot have input I have input but my input supports her ideas her thoughts her words and by me supporting this new confident dominant woman my life is awesome I'm doing more things that I never thought I could be doing in all the groups in all the pyramid levels it's amazing adventure for me as I submit as a powerful confident man to her will her love her desire and I am pretty confident that most ladies have this in them that's why they were created to be the better part of this journey as our guide as a man to follow the woman Author: Flrjer 2017-05-07 06:40:51 [reply]
Author: James 2017-09-21 00:32:07   
Are men promoting healthy positive relationships by participating in internet porn? No. The men are wasting their time and putting themselves at risk of developing a self-defeating obsession. I would say the men who are boycotting internet porn might be doing so.
Author: David Jeeves 2017-09-14 11:08:35   
Engaging in internet porn creates unrealistic expectations of women and how we perceive them, the degradation of woman through this outlet leads to false and unreasonable outcomes in our relationships.
Author: JPM1971 2017-08-16 01:07:29   
Absolutely not. This is what causes flr to be stigmatized and slandered. It's a complete misrepresentation of flr and is frankly vile.
Author: JackStephen 2017-07-01 06:20:00   
Men are not promoting good healthy relationships when participating in porn because they are more focused on their pleasure not their partners.
Author: Barry66 2017-06-26 16:07:16   
I think it would largely depend on the couple or the individual and their mindset that is partaking in the use of the pornography. if partaken together as a couple it has been shown that under the right mindset and circumstances pornagraphy can be healthy. it can promote a couple to experiment and encourage to try new things. it can take fantasy into reality. and in some cases even outside the bedroom (level 4+ FLR for example) in my case if it wasnt for porn I would have never discovered that I wanted to be in a FLR, to wear a chastity belt, or even to become more feminine and becoming an overall better partner. As a result it has moved me into action to try and live out my desires. I have asked my previous partners to try some of what I saw and have always had good results and never had it impact my relationships in any negative way. individually the context and use of the porn matters as well. I do not watch porn often but when I do I don't watch porn that is degrading of the female performers and usually like watching that is more sensual between both partners. I generally think that the harm in porn usually comes when it is abused by individuals who have the wrong mindset, weak willed, and an have an unrealistic view on relationships and body images. those people that usually do have such a view tend to not look past body image and in my opinion don't look at whats most important and beautiful like the personality of the individual they are with.
Author: Lovingmale 2017-06-25 14:53:04   
As this lifestyle of me serving the lady brings me beyond the p*** beyond the shallow promises that you never really came pornography is just the way in it's just something that gives you false hope not to say it ain't great I'm not criticizing anybody involved in it but if you look Beyond you start living the Fulfillment of a female-led relationship in the life you lead by serving her and her desires and her needs with her ideas her thoughts it is awesome to put yourself beneath someone and to be I guess they're served what a fulfillment for me
Author: Flrjer 2017-05-07 06:09:27   
No, it diverts their attention and energy away from their mate. It also promotes the concept that a desirable woman is the "idealized" woman, not real women.
Author: Newmilleniumguy 2017-04-28 17:57:56   
No They are not. They are being fooled into thinking they will be satisfied; and they are obsessed with that goal; and it will not happen!
Author: Mikkiservlacy 2017-04-15 12:22:29   
No. It is not promoting healthy positive relationships. The models are not real and raise unrealistic expectations.
Author: Porroland 2017-04-14 13:16:25   
The porn industry has made a vision of how Ladies are to look with no regards of the many Ladies built different,and treated different
Author: Moto Steve 2016-12-31 15:29:59   

 

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