Describe how sex works in level 3-4 FLR, who makes the choices?

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Describe how sex works in level 3-4 FLR, who makes the choices?

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Clearly in 3/4 relationship women make the decision. How, when and if any sexual release happens is in her gift.
Author: Lemuts_2 2017-11-21 10:52:18   
Good question - not sure I can answer this question as I never really made it htat far up the "food chain"
Author: Whateveryoudesire 2017-10-31 21:54:23   
I believe at that level the woman would make those choices
Author: Igor2learn 2017-10-22 18:08:04   
I feel that the woman makes the choices. It shoudl be that way. Sex is an important part of the relationship. She should make the decisions in all important matters.
Author: ProfessionallookingforhisBOSS 2017-10-02 12:41:04   
From what I read here on this site, Formal Female Leadership (Level 3 FLR) the woman is empowered to make all the choices about sex. She has insight into the motivation of her man to be pleasing, useful and fetching. As well she is aware of his sexual identity, for example "Heterosexual receptive manly male in chastity", and she is empowered to change it to something different, if she so desires. The woman considers various erotic activities she could lead or participate in, and she makes the decisions. She is in control. Her agenda is followed. Extreme Female Leadership (Level 4 FLR): The woman has asserted her ownership of her pet/slave. Her agenda includes the intense exercise of power and control. Her agenda may expand to the enjoyment of other sex partners with the support of her enthralled FLR gentleman.
Author: David Jeeves 2017-09-14 12:35:22   
in level 4 women make all the decisions and quite rightly so. in levels 1 it's more like a normal relationship. in 2 the female is more in control and level three the man begins to surrender all control
Author: Barry66 2017-06-26 16:12:40   
These levels of control in choices all intermingle Bible Understanding of me as the servant to her as the dominant one and motivating and driving makes it easier for us to travel on the same path not separate paths not stopping she's looking at one thing I'm looking it we're not going anywhere we're walking in circles but by me getting behind her and her dreams and her love her compassion we are moving forward on a journey that is incredible so as I tried to understand what I'm doing but knowing what path to follow she becomes successful at all her levels and able to lead at all the levels not just the limited level of the desire of sex which to her probably is not needed but she will not understand the full potential till she feels the benefits of seeking this relationship Style of life
Author: Flrjer 2017-05-07 06:21:25   
As I understand it, in levels 3 - 4 the decision is up to the woman, unless she delegates that to the man. I don't yet have personal experience with this.
Author: Newmilleniumguy 2017-04-28 18:17:36   
I think it comes down to how you define `sex`. Lets say in vanilla sex both partners would want to experience an orgasm. In level 3 to 4 there is a paradigm shift. The Wwoman expects and demands much more orgasmic pleasure than she allows Hher submissive. The submissive male will gain great pleasure in being allowed intimacy but his physical ejaculation would be completely controlled by his Mmistress[mate]. The submissive male is taught not to seek, or expect an orgasm for himself. - edited by staff [reason: femdom jargon and just bad ideas - FLR does not have mistresses or submissives it has 2 people in a relationship]
Author: Tom38795 2017-04-27 12:20:00   
The Female in the relationship has total control over the man, and makes all the decisions, but permits the mans input, periodically?
Author: Mikkiservlacy 2017-04-15 12:42:04   
at level 3 and 4 only the female decides when, how sex will happen. only the female can tell and ask for sexual pleasure, while the male normally cannot decide anything himself.
Author: Porroland 2017-04-14 13:37:11   
I will have to earn my being able to have sex or have sexual relief and it will be up to the Lady in my life, because she will have full control of my actions
Author: Moto Steve 2016-12-31 15:52:01   
Being that I want a level 4 and above the sex would always be geared toward her desires level 1 i would advance to making sure the timing was right Level 2 I would ask if it is right level 3 I might assume it was the right timing and Level 4 she would choose when and with who I would be lucky to watch and participate if she allowed.
Author: Happy56 2016-12-03 18:07:18   
Depends on which level right? What about level 1, level 2 and level 3. Clearly in level 4 women make all the choices or allow men to. It should be the woman in my opinion.
Author: Alpha4Life 2016-11-04 01:29:58   
Yes, it depends on the level I guess. For me level 3 (sometimes) 2 feels comfortable. I would not be comfortable with level 4 but there will be many couples who are. I think that the goal or quest of sex in FLR should be the woman's pleasure. Her orgasms and satisfaction can be paramount and not only to you but to herself too. Your pleasure is something which may well be derived from her pleasure and a side benefit of full sex such as penetration. As for the choices, like I say, it should be about her pleasure so choice should revolve around that as a central theme
Author: DorianGrey 2016-10-24 12:03:47   
Unfortunately, if you look online at femdom, it will often lead to professional or financial Dommes and personally that does not appeal to me. Being mutually comfortable in putting your (female) partner's needs first is not the same as them dressing up wielding a whip which is more of a fantasy a la Max Mosely. You can work to please your partner in a very normal setting, which most of the time is a lot more exciting anyway
Author: DorianGrey 2016-10-24 11:34:00   
Paradoxically, I think pleasure at one's disposal is not really pleasurable at all. If he is always to be available when she asks, where's the fun in that? That is, a little uncertainty about being able to get it adds to pleasure. This is why I suspect most people will not need to progress to level 4. Many times, women will want their man to be in control of a particular encounter, even if they are in charge of the relationship as a whole.
Author: PALearner218 2016-09-27 13:31:45   
Sex works as a partnership it is based on her satisfaction. His satisfaction should be in her pleasure. She calls the shots. Sexual desire is the base of her control and her control is the everlasting forplay. His desire for her keeps him at maximum obedience.
Author: Helpme555 2016-09-21 17:21:12   
Ann1000Days: I like your answer but I think in "compromise" both sides lose something and both sides gain something. And in the best situation both sides feel like winners (although I think the female should win a bit more).
Author: Motleyfoool 2016-08-02 09:29:15   
I struggle with this one - I think women generally want men to take the initiative in sex and I think that is a natural part of level 1-3. In harder level 3 and level 4 the power dynamic become so skewed such that a man can really only beg or plead for the things he wants.
Author: Strong.follower56 2016-07-30 23:13:24   


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