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By testing the waters concerns and fear are removed about regarding groups food choices. This allows a greater relinquishing of control.
Author: Wayland 2018-03-13 19:56:06   
It will help ease into them without conflict. This way she and he will have knowledge on how to govern them. Practicing anything is aways key in perfection.
Author: Panchafinder5 2017-11-03 18:53:38   
I think figuring out what works and what does not I can excel at all this training and until I find a mate and live it it's really only theory and it's true for the woman as well what we expect things to be may not be accurate and this is a great way of finding out
Author: Igor2learn 2017-10-24 21:35:27   
Experimenting with control, as I understand the concept, involves deciding on a placeholder or manager/leader for a limited term. Control might either be functional or shared. Discussions would be held periodically and notes would be written about what things the manager/leader is doing or is about to do. The dependent partner promises to support the leader/manager (not "jump ship") during the term. At the end of the term the control agreement may be adjusted.
Author: David Jeeves 2017-09-18 15:36:06   
A clearer understanding of the benefits of the relationship for each party. Particularly the woman will be able to carry out her desires over the man in ways such as waiting upon and serving her, displaying subservience by kneeling for example.
Author: Philipt 2017-08-08 08:27:37   
To understand how comfortable both partners feel about there desired dynamic. Its a very daunting task and its important to know if both partners are ready.
Author: JackStephen 2017-07-01 05:20:30   
For me the food groups were a somewhat already in place in our relationship. The understanding I have gained into correct thought and understanding of how to communicate has changed our life for the good. Even though I am learning how to communicate to her in her thought patterns, I easily want to get into my goals and objections, which now take second place in our lives. So I must put my greedy thoughts away and concentrate on her. So as the relationship develops my needs are met in a better way under her rule. I must trust her, obey and love to reach the fullest potential of our dreams as a couple in all food groups.
Author: Flrjer 2017-05-29 06:19:11   
Life is stimulating when you learn, or are faced with a new challenge. Having something you accept as the 'norm' in daily life, taken away, represents a challenge. You have change and adapt to the new situation which is stimulating to the mind. Your leader can observe how you cope with the challenge. Which gives Her valuable insight into the nature of your character under different circumstances. Having discussed and concluded on the results of the experiment both parties learn more about each other and the value of such a change becoming permanent or reverting.
Author: Tom38795 2017-05-03 13:56:07   
You can decide which level or compromise works best for both of you so communication is key and speaking up about how you feel is too
Author: DorianGrey 2016-10-24 13:25:36   
Some of the food groups are sex neutral, meaning that either a male or female can do the job equally well. Just because the couple has entered into a FLR doesn't always mean the woman is better at everything. The male maybe great at finances or housework and by communication and experimentation the woman may require that the man take care of the finances or housework, under her supervision of course!
Author: Thomas260 2016-10-13 19:50:00   
It allows give and take. Boundaries can be make and pushed to the limits It's helps the relatioship to develop to their full potential toward everlasting love.
Author: Helpme555 2016-09-21 14:09:47   
I think the essential point from this is that by adopting this approach in a relationship one has the opportunity to change from the present situation to improve the relationship. The more controlled areas that one can agree to give over to your partner the better the relationship is likely to be. But areas should still be discussed and changed sometimes going forward.
Author: Perversey 2016-09-17 02:24:25   
Experimenting with the food groups will help the couple decide on which level of FLR they are comfortable with .Based on that the leader of the group will be able to set realistic expectations from her partner .
Author: Sandy_2 2015-12-22 01:01:50   
i have never ' tested the waters as i have always been a submissive - beta and so i cannot really comment on those who are new to totally surrender, thank You.
Author: Steven4FLR 2015-11-02 10:57:38   
Again noting answers here, it is really up to the woman to delegate, completely control, or relief herself from a food group, it is one topic that the woman and woman only makes the final decision.
Author: Mario4Level3 2015-06-25 17:59:28   
There may be times where the woman does not want to take control and she tells the man to just take care of things. This takes the burden off the woman when she isn't feeling "in the mood". She could always later discipline the man if he screwed the situation up. Lol
Author: Holdmenow 2015-04-12 18:28:00   
To be able to adjust to any problems. Let the woman answer any questions the man has about how things are going.
Author: 1goodguy2u 2015-02-22 01:34:14   
Experimenting seems vital at the start to feel each other out. This way the couple finds out what helps or hinders your bond
Author: JC800000 2014-12-08 00:25:51   
I think it is good to experiment with food group control as long as the leadership role in each is clear to both persons. Every couple will find a natural affinity for the food group(s) where they want to lead. If the woman is a CPA and her potential husband is a firefighter it may be natural for her to control the Finance group. Often in old style MLRs the man had final say even though the woman did most of the “background” effort attending to the details. Level 3 FLRs work best where the male is more submissive than the female in the domestic realm, if not in the outside world. This is different from the term “henpecked”. The submissive man just wants the woman to take the lead in decision making and the couple can apportion how to handle the details. It may be thought that this apportionment could be decided during the courtship phase before marriage but I think this is not realistic. Many marriages change from MLR to FLR over time. This occurs because of age (and hopefully wisdom) and because of women just becoming more equal in our society.
Author: Motleyfoool 2014-09-09 14:49:08   
Chemistry is needed. Understanding the scope of commitment reinforces the understanding of the long and slow process that will be required to achieve a successful FLR.
Author: Eric_vi 2014-09-04 12:25:30   


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