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Gender Male
Username LeadMe2Learn
Reputation Points Score 61 [what is this]
Website
Occupation Energy
Location Oklahoma
Interests & hobbies writing, painting, Italian Motorcycles,
Extended Profile
Dating Information
Are you looking for a new relationship ? Yes
General Information
tell people what you want them to know about you I am an intelligent, talented, attractive (I'm told), respectful, well raised, hardworking man with a long term independent career in the energy sector. I was a confirmed bachelor until my mid-life crisis when I married for the fist time to a generation younger, kinky, nerdy, understanding, ethical slut, and BDSM switch. Our relationship changed after we lost ou boy and girl twins at 19 weeks. Now we have a precious IVF miracle girl who is now in preschool, and we have agreed to a very amicable divorce with joint custody (primarily with her mother for now). My wife will keep the house so I am excited to find a new place that suits my needs better as a writer and artist but hopefully where I may retain my Independent Petroleum Landman career but I am open to working the best job I can find anywhere.
describe what you do for fun/hobbies I like my career but I have been more of a writer and artist (mostly oil on canvas) at heart since I first began to write stories and oil paint at the age of ten years. I collect music recordings (vinyl, CD, 5.1 DVD, now digital); books (reference, biography, art, and erotica); vintage pin-up art and negatives (model subjects for artwork). I also collect vintage Italian motorcycles to restore to pristine riding condition to market to collectors.
describe your formal education I have a high school education, some courses from different colleges over the years but I am primarily an autodidact.
describe what you do to relax For relaxation, I like to listen to music, write, paint, read, go to museums, attend the fine arts, rebuild and ride my motorcycles, screen old films, and (rarely) attend to observe or participate at BDSM events or house parties or the very occasional swinger party for fellowship and perhaps safe sex. Laughing and Playing with a compatible partner is better than anything though.

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describe what you do to stay healthy and fit I have been very fit a number of times in my life but let myself go physically during my marriage. I am working on a good plan of clean eating and regular exercise once again to regain my former fit physique. I accept that I could use added strict guidance with this.
describe what you do to earn money/career I have my own one man corporation in the Energy sector for the past ten years. I am also networking to get back into Grip and Teleprompter Operator work so I can become reacquainted with people in the film and video industry. I also invest in buying vintage Italian Motorcycles, restoring them for resale. I have been writing several film screenplays and once I am satisfied with them, I will market them to Hollywood or Independent filmmakers. I read, explore, research, and have worked at many professions of interest throughout my life. I've been a fine restaurant Maître d'/waiter/bartender; a Porsche Audi mechanic; and an oil field roughneck in my twenties. In my thirties I worked for father's oil business as a Natural Gas Liquids broker until he had a devastating medical set-back and he closed the company. To support Mom I opened a one-hour photo lab with a custom darkroom and small portrait studio. When my mother retired we sold the photo lab and I moved on the film and video production as a Grip, Teleprompter Operator, Scenic Designer/Carpenter/Painter. I have an onscreen credit for "Properties" in an Indie film shot in Oklahoma - a lousy movie but very interesting to be a part of.
describe the last 3 books you read -"The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy (I've met Ms. Easton on several occasions) about how to be a sexually ethical "slut". -- I just received "How To Set Up An FLR: A Couple's Guide to Female Led Relationships" by Georgia Ivey Green, which I hope proves both educational and beneficial to my endeavor here on my quest to be a proper FLR mate. The last book I completed was "The Templars: Holy Warrior Monks of the Ancient Lands" a history of the Knights Templar from their mysterious inception as Crusaders and bankers to kings, to present their day practices. -- Plus I am currently reading literature about deplorable Ritual Sexual Abuse and the Military Mind Control Experiments (that often accompany horrific physical abuse) designed to cover "RSA" groups' sexual abuse by inducing Dissociative Identity Disorder in their victims so that the truth will not be believed by Psychologists and law enforcement. I am reading this unbelievable, uncomfortable material as research for a screenplay I have outlined.
describe the last 3 movies you saw 28 Hotel Rooms - This movie showed the story of two people who were having an affair side of the story. You could tell that these people truly loved each other but struggled with taking a leap of faith and following their hearts. I am sure a lot of people can relate to that. The only thing I didn't like was the ending because I don't like to fell like I am left hanging and wondering whats going to happen next. I also thought that the acting was pretty good too. I never heard of the actors, but would love to see them both in other movies. Bottom line, if you are into love stories and believe in soul mates then you would love this movie. *** The Giver - In a seemingly perfect community, without war, pain, suffering, differences or choice, a young boy is chosen to learn from an elderly man about the true pain and pleasure of the "real" world. *** The Life of Pi - Regarding the connection between the lifeboat parties the writer makes the connection for the audience (or readers): the hyena is the cook, the orangutan is Pi’s mother, the zebra is the sailor, and Richard Parker is Pi. However, the film’s juxtaposition of the animal story and the human story has led me to believe it is a descriptive explanation of how extreme trauma can break a single human mind into having separate identities that individually cope with different instances or aspects of a single instance of a horrifying experience. I believe that this book and movie seek to explain to a lay person how Dissociative Identity Disorder is caused and appears in real life to previously well adjusted and balanced human beings. I believe that D.I.D. is distinct symptom of PTSD of a very complex nature that can be explained, treated and "cured" not only by "integration of identities" but by acceptance of consciously co-existing personalities or as they are sometimes called "alters" in the former diagnosis of Multiple Personality Disorder.
describe the last time you had dinner with friends I have a long time best friend who entertains friend gatherings at his home on Friday evenings. I attend whenever I can and always have the best in fellowship, banter, and intelligent discussions without politics, religion, or family drama. My friend lives 100 miles away where I grew up since high school, so I don't make every gathering.
describe the last 3 places you traveled to/visited 1.) New York City / New Jersey (where I spent the wonder years, age seven to fourteen) to visit friends and use the services of a fertility clinic. 2.) Colorado for a driving vacation staying in nice lodges, rustic cabins, and exploring the mountains and art communities. 3.) Grand Cayman Island, on vacation, staying at a resort on the quiet sparsely populated East End and traveling the entire island for snorkeling and just laying on deserted beaches.
describe where you live I live in a Mediterranean style house in a quiet neighborhood of mostly retirees in Oklahoma, with my lovely (soon to be ex - her idea) wife and our incredibly precocious little IVF miracle daughter who wrote her name at 19 months of age and told us about her brother and sister who are angels. Of course we never mentioned the loss of our twins to her as an infant or toddler. She has special gifts and heightened sensory perception about people, places and things. She is an old soul or indigo child.
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How long have you been thinking about FLR ? more than 8 years
What level of FLR interests you most ? level 3
describe the perfect FLR kind of man A TRUE GENTLEMAN. A good humored, responsible, secure, malleable, attentive, responsive, communicative, tidy, hard working man with a authentic desire and need for a woman's guidance in work, play and control of his over active erotic fantasies and acting out.
describe why you want an FLR My purpose is to be in service to, as well as driven hard by a very motivated, well intentioned, strict disciplinarian, but nurturing woman of immense will, extraordinary intuition, and uncanny timing to make us a dynamic duo. A woman to make me the very best man I can be for her. I will be the partner she always wanted and I pledge to do everything in my power to improve her life and fulfill her needs and desires. I want to be a part in her becoming the best person she can be so together we can live our lives to our fullest potential. I need help focusing on using my talents so I can be the success I am destined to be. I wish to lavish my love on the woman of my dreams. A woman who wants me and needs me to be the man she is proud to call her own. I never had a woman reveal sufficient interest me mentally, emotionally and spiritually to pry into my heart, mind and soul to discover my darkest secrets and richest hidden treasure I have of needing to give my love and affection to a woman who longs to use her will, strength, and knowledge of men to manage a talented man and make him a star among men. I want to attract an intelligent, natural nurturing, loving, yet strict capable leader who would like to use her managerial skills in the basic two areas in all five food groups.
I have experienced FLR in a previous relationship? Yes
if you had been in a previous FLR
describe why your relationship ended
I had a brief and very personal affair with a very experienced professional dominatrix in Texas where she controlled my sex life and used me for her personal sexual and emotional needs in exchange for creating a personal oil painting "for her". I wanted to act out my darkest past experiences and explore my present desires too, with dreams of being forced to paint to success. I failed her because I was still too immature to let her into my heart and completely know me. It was not my best effort at a D/s relationship and I suspect not my best FLR match.
Body
Sexual orientation ? bi-sexual
Body type ? Few Extra Pounds
Height ? Tall
Describe your body hair ? Groomed
Hair color ? Silver
My relationship status ? Married
My age is ? 60s
Do you have an STD ? No Comment
Readiness to communicate
I input a digital camera ? Yes
I have a highspeed internet connection ? Yes
I have internet video camera ? Yes
I am online ? weekly

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