What about dominating a man turns women on?

I am in a FLR but I think my wife just likes the benefits of no housecleaning and having her pleasure come first in the bedroom. I love the idea of my wife putting me in my place and demonstrating her authority in the marriage. I can explain how I like this to her but it doesn’t seem to turn her on.
I’d like to know from FLR wives what about this kinds of relationship turn them on. I thought I might be able to present a different view point that might encourage her dominance.